The different stages of family mediation

For information on family mediation, please read the introduction to family mediation page

I will start by sending you a preliminary information form as well as an agreement to mediate

The first initial meeting ( MIAM)

An initial individual meeting is arranged with each participant. During this meeting, we will consider whether mediation is appropriate for you and whether I am the right mediator for your situation.

I will use the form you have completed in advance to learn more about you, your circumstances, your relationship with your former partner, the way you communicate and your children.

I will take the time to explain how mediation works and the different options available to you.

This is also an opportunity for you to ask questions and discuss any concerns or reservations you may have about mediation or about participating with your former partner.

During this meeting, I will assess whether there are any circumstances that may make mediation unsuitable, including domestic abuse, coercive control or any other pressure experienced by either participant.

The First Joint Meeting

During the first joint session, you will identify the matters you would like to discuss, including your children, family arrangements, finances or any other issue arising from your separation.

Each participant will have an opportunity to explain their circumstances, concerns and priorities. The mediator will facilitate the discussion, ensure that each person has an opportunity to speak and help you identify the next steps.

You do not need to reach an agreement during this first session. The primary aim is to establish a constructive dialogue and begin exploring solutions that are appropriate for your family.

The sessions: How many sessions do we need and how long do they last?

Generally, mediation involves between four and six sessions, each lasting approximately 90 minutes to two hours.

However, this will depend on your individual circumstances and how easily you are able to communicate. It is therefore important to remain flexible.

Sessions usually last around 90 minutes, although they may sometimes be shorter or longer depending on the matters being discussed.

We have come to an agreement during mediation, what is the next step?

Depending on what you require, I can help you prepare a draft agreement or Memorandum of Understanding. This can then be submitted to your lawyers, who can advise you and, where appropriate, take the necessary steps to make the agreement legally binding.

Alternatively, I can prepare a document recording the proposals reached in mediation so that your respective lawyers can draft the appropriate legal agreement.

I can also assist you with the preparation of a parenting plan.

In England and Hong Kong, I can assist with the financial disclosure process, including the completion of Form E-style financial information, and with the preparation of draft documents recording the proposals reached in mediation.